How High Are Your Standards?
So, you're out there on your dating app, swiping left and right, meeting new people, or maybe taking a break and focusing on yourself. One thing's for sure: dating can be a wild ride. It's full of exciting possibilities, but also the occasional awkward encounter (we've all been there!). Maybe you've even found yourself wondering, "Am I being too picky? Are my standards too high?" or "Is my idea of a perfect partner just a fantasy?"
Well, fret no more! This fun standards test is designed to help you explore your dating requirements in a lighthearted way.
Unlike other online tests that focus on just calculating the likelihood of finding your ideal partner based on your preferences such as age, height, and income (looking at you, Keeper AI Test!), this standards quiz is designed to help you understand what you truly value in a partner.
What Do We Mean By Standards?
Before we dive in, let's unpack the term "dating standards" a bit. It's not just about physical appearance (although that can play a role, of course). Standards encompass a range of qualities you find desirable in a potential partner. This could include things like shared interests, values, communication styles, and even life goals.
Think about it like building a house. You wouldn't just throw random materials together and hope for the best, right? You'd have a blueprint, a vision of what you want the final product to be. Dating standards are similar. They're your blueprint for a fulfilling relationship, a roadmap that helps you navigate the dating landscape.
Forget wondering about how dateable you are and decoding your attachment style (though that's a whole other conversation!) – this quiz focuses on what makes you tick and the qualities you desire in a partner.
Why Take A Standards Quiz?
So, why exactly is exploring your dating standards important? Here are a few reasons:
- Clarity is Key: By taking stock of your preferences, you gain a clearer understanding of what you're looking for in a partner. This clarity can be incredibly helpful when meeting new people. You'll be able to identify potential matches more easily and avoid wasting time on dates that just aren't a good fit.
- Confidence Booster: Knowing your worth and what you bring to the table is attractive! When you understand your standards, you approach dating with a sense of confidence. You'll be better equipped to communicate your needs and attract partners who truly value you for who you are.
- Avoiding Compatibility Mismatches: Let's face it, incompatible partners can lead to heartache. By reflecting on your values and dealbreakers, you can minimize the chances of ending up in a relationship that's destined to fail. This doesn't mean every date has to be perfect, but it does mean setting yourself up for success in the long run.
Take the Standards Test
Alright, are you ready to know if your dating standards are too high, too low, or reasonable? Great! This partner standard quiz will present you with a series of questions. Take your time, answer honestly, and most importantly, have fun with the standards test!
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Standards Test Questions
What's more important to you - having a type you're physically attracted to or having a partner with a great personality?
Definitely the physical type - I need that spark of attraction.
Personality is everything - looks are totally irrelevant.
Personality is most important, but physical attraction still matters somewhat.
How much of a priority is it for your partner to make around the same income level as you?
I'd prefer it, but I'm willing to be a bit flexible if everything else is right.
A moderate difference is okay, but our incomes shouldn't be worlds apart.
It's an absolute must - our lifestyles and financial priorities need to align.
Income level doesn't matter at all to me.
You meet someone you're instantly attracted to, but then you find out they have a habit or quirk that really bugs you. How much would that habit or quirk impact your interest in them?
I wouldn't care at all - everyone has little quirks.
It would be an absolute deal-breaker.
It would bother me, but I could potentially look past it if everything else was great.
You've been dating someone for a few months, and you realize one of their core values or beliefs clashes with your own. What do you do?
Break things off immediately - that's too big of a difference to overcome.
It's not a big deal - you don't need to have everything in common.
Try to work through it and see if you can find some common ground.
Discuss it openly to see if the difference is something you can both accept and respect.
You're on a first date, and your date shows up wearing something you find completely unappealing. What do you do?
It's just clothes - you don't really care what they wear.
Their outfit choice is a bit of a turn-off, but you're willing to look past it if you click otherwise.
Give them a chance and see if their personality makes up for it.
You make a mental note about their style, but remain open-minded for now.
Politely excuse yourself and end the date early.
Your friend sets you up on a blind date. What's the first thing you want to know about your potential match?
Their job and income level.
Their interests, values and personality traits to gauge compatibility.
Just their name is fine - you like to go in with an open mind.
Their age and general background.
If they have any deal-breaker habits or qualities I should know about upfront.
You meet someone who ticks all the boxes - they're your exact type physically, have an amazing personality, great values, etc. But then you find out they're quite a bit younger/older than your preferred age range. What do you do?
It would make me hesitant, but I'm open to discussion about long-term implications.
The age gap doesn't bother me at all if we click.
I could make a small exception if the connection is amazing, but a large age gap is too much.
Give it a try - age is just a number if you really vibe.
Move on - the age difference is just too much for me.
What's more important to you - sharing the same cultural background/ethnicity as your partner or finding someone you're truly compatible with?
Same background would be ideal, but it's not an absolute requirement.
Having a partner from my same culture is an extremely high priority.
I strongly prefer shared cultural roots, but could make an exception for an amazing connection.
Ethnic background is a minor consideration - compatibility is much more important.
Cultural background doesn't matter at all to me.
You match with someone on a dating app who seems great, but they live quite far away. How far is too far for you?
I could do an hour's drive if we really clicked.
I'd consider up to a 30-minute drive, but no farther.
Distance doesn't matter - I'm willing to make it work if the connection is right.
Anything more than a 15-minute drive is too far for me.
Your new partner has an annoying habit of constantly cracking their knuckles. How much of a deal-breaker is this for you?
Mildly annoying, but not a big issue in the grand scheme of things.
I wouldn't even notice or care about a little habit like that.
It would really bother me, but I could potentially look past it.
I absolutely cannot stand that habit - it's a total deal-breaker.
How important is it for your partner's political views to align with your own?
Political views don't matter at all to me in a partner.
Some overlap is ideal, but different views could make for great discussions.
I need us to at least be in the same general vicinity politically.
We must have virtually identical political beliefs - no exceptions.
You meet someone who initially seems perfect for you. But then you find out they have a controversial opinion or lifestyle choice you fundamentally disagree with. What do you do?
As long as it's not directly harming anyone, I can look past it.
I cut off contact immediately - that's an absolute deal-breaker for me.
It doesn't bother me at all - different strokes for different folks.
It would give me serious pause, but I'm willing to hear them out first.
How high of a priority is having a partner who shares your religious beliefs and level of observance?
While I'd prefer someone of the same religion, differing levels of observance could work.
Religion and spirituality aren't important factors for me in a partner.
It's an absolute requirement - we must be of the same faith and equally devout.
Having some spiritual overlap is nice, but I don't need an exact religious match.
Your new partner is great in almost every way, but they have an addiction issue (smoking, alcohol, etc.) that concerns you. How much of a red flag is this?
I'd support them getting help, but it wouldn't be a relationship-ender necessarily.
It's a significant issue that would need to be addressed immediately.
It's not ideal, but I don't judge - we all have our vices.
Any kind of addiction is an absolute deal-breaker for me - no exceptions.
Your new partner admits they are still not over their ex and have lingering feelings for them. How much of an issue is this for you?
It doesn't bother me - we all have pasts to work through.
I can be patient and supportive as long as they are committed to us.
It's a yellow flag - I'd need a solid plan for how they'll move on.
I cannot be with someone who has feelings for an ex - it's over immediately.
You find out your new partner has a past criminal record involving a non-violent offense. How much does their past matter to you?
Everyone has a past - their criminal record doesn't bother me.
Any kind of criminal record is an absolute no-go for me.
It would depend on the specific offense, but I'd be very hesitant.
As long as it wasn't violent and they've moved on, I can look past it.
Your new partner wants to adopt a pet, but you're severely allergic to that type of animal. How willing are you to compromise?
Not a chance - I couldn't be with someone who insists on having a pet I'm allergic to.
My allergies aren't a big deal - I'm happy to let them have whatever pet they want.
I'd prefer not to have that pet, but I'm open to exploring hypoallergenic options.
It would be extremely difficult for me, but I may consider safe options.
Almost there! Your partner's dream is to eventually quit their job and start their own business, but it's a very risky venture. How much does this factor into your compatibility?
I respect their dream and would support them as long as we plan accordingly.
That level of risk and instability is simply not acceptable to me.
More power to them - I fully encourage that kind of entrepreneurial spirit!
I'd need to see a very solid business plan before I could get on board.
Your new partner has very different tastes and interests from you in areas like music, movies, hobbies etc. How much does that impact your compatibility?
Different interests keep things interesting! We can explore each other's worlds.
It would concern me a bit, but I'm willing to introduce each other to new things.
Shared interests aren't important at all - having separate hobbies is healthy.
It's a total deal-breaker - we need to have shared interests and pastimes.
And last but not least, you find out your new partner has a habit or personality trait that really clashes with your own (e.g. They're very frugal and you're a spendthrift). How much of an issue is this?
It depends on how extreme the difference is, but it gives me pause.
Any kind of major lifestyle incompatibility is an absolute deal-breaker.
Differences like that can be worked through with communication and compromise.
Clashing personality traits and habits don't really bother me.
22 Comments
Flexible but Focused!
You have certain foundational must-haves that are important to your long-term compatibility and life vision. However, in other less crucial areas, you’re quite flexible and able to compromise or re-evaluate your expectations. This balanced selectiveness means you likely won’t end up with someone who completely lacks the core traits you value, but you’re also open-minded enough to avoid rigid checklist thinking that could cause you to overlook a wonderful partner.
this is right
I got flexible but focused. To be honest this is realy accurate
You have certain foundational must-haves that are important to your long-term compatibility and life vision. However, in other less crucial areas, you’re quite flexible and able to compromise or re-evaluate your expectations. This balanced selectiveness means you likely won’t end up with someone who completely lacks the core traits you value, but you’re also open-minded enough to avoid rigid checklist thinking that could cause you to overlook a wonderful partner.
Reasonably particular. Hm… I’d rather be alone than be with somebody with addiction problems, violence, and other extreme differences. I love my freedom…love it so much that I’ve been single since I divorced my ex in 2016. I prefer my own company nowadays, too comfortable in my peaceful solitude home.
Yessss same
flexible but focused
You have a pretty clear vision of your ideal partner’s core traits, backgrounds, and qualities. However, you’re grounded enough to recognize that perfection is unrealistic and people’s value isn’t defined by a checklist. You look for fundamental compatibility in the areas most important to you while staying open-minded about less essential factors. This balanced approach means you won’t settle, but also won’t miss out on great partners over insignificant details. While you know what you want, you’re open-minded enough to recognize quality when you see it.
I don’t even plan on getting in a relationship no time soon LOL
I got flexible and focused. Makes sense.
You got: Flexible but Focused!
You have certain foundational must-haves that are important to your long-term compatibility and life vision. However, in other less crucial areas, you’re quite flexible and able to compromise or re-evaluate your expectations. This balanced selectiveness means you likely won’t end up with someone who completely lacks the core traits you value, but you’re also open-minded enough to avoid rigid checklist thinking that could cause you to overlook a wonderful partner.
I got impossibly low standerds, every bf I’ve had was online (including my current) and I’ve just gave them a chance, AND GO FUCKING SMITTEN//0///0// accurate 😀
I got flexible but focused. Ok!
Flexible but focused. Ok, I guess.
Extremely picky. My niece told me I couldn’t get a man even if I wanted one as I set my standards too high.
Flexible but Foxused I cant tell is that good of bad haha
Impossibly low standards but I have a girlfriend and I want to respect her so it makes sense
Extremely picky
Reasonably Particular. “You have a pretty clear vision of your ideal partner’s core traits, backgrounds, and qualities. However, you’re grounded enough to recognize that perfection is unrealistic and people’s value isn’t defined by a checklist. You look for fundamental compatibility in the areas most important to you while staying open-minded about less essential factors. This balanced approach means you won’t settle, but also won’t miss out on great partners over insignificant details. While you know what you want, you’re open-minded enough to recognize quality when you see it.”
Same.
Flexible but focused
Open to possibilities, great
same
Flexible but Focused
me too!!